The Appeal of #TradWife Life Can’t Be Ignored.

I Should Know. I Grew Up With Them.

Miyah Byrd
12 min readSep 13, 2023
The Ladies’ home journal, 1948, Wikimedia Commons

Amy sends me another video of her new obsession. The Instagram reel shows a gorgeous woman, heavily filtered, making tea, baking bread, pulling weeds from her garden, hugging her three kids, and kissing her husband when he got home. Amy loves these videos. Wants those domestic comforts more than anything. She’s 23.

She’s not alone.

Popular tradwife influencers, including Estee Williams on Instagram and Rachel Joy on TikTok, are abundant. If you scroll on social media long enough, you’ll probably see more than a few of these cheerful, white women sharing gardening tips, baking sourdough bread and making broth, ironing aprons, or telling you how to make your husband happy by catering to his every sexual whim.

The #tradwife trend appeals to a growing group of girls and young women. It’s a weirdly wholesome fantasy. Polka-dot dresses, red lipstick, and cuddly, chubby children. Why be concerned? Tupperware and gardening ain’t exactly drugs and alcohol. A life where your most pressing concern is making sure a hot meal is on the table at 6pm-what’s not to love? After all, the romanticization of post-war Americana is nothing new.

Between the cooking videos and cute aprons, I catch flashes of my childhood. I grew…

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